It must be said that after divorcing my alcoholic husband, you would think I would have discovered more of a "normal" man to marry. I have gone from one insane corner of the emotional and dysfunctional world to yet another. Don't get me wrong - I love my husband! He really tries and at times makes alot of sense...
This is not about husband bashing, it is only about the INSANITY of dysfunction! It is about learning how to get through the dysfunction!
Therefore, the story of this evening follows:
Hamburgers - todays stress revolves around hamburgers!
My daughter (16) who has not eaten beef for about 8 years! is forced to eat hamburger. Luckily - she sucked it up and did very well, but the question remains "why would you try to pick this fight?" - "Does it really matter that she doesn't like beef, when she is willing to eat chicken and pork?" Anyway, the hamburger was eaten with no tears, no yelling, no grounding! Praise God!
My husband has good intentions - wanting her to be "normal"! LOL! Truly a funny statment since normal is just the setting on the washer and truly does not exist in the realm of human behavior!
It is the attitude of "SHE will do as I say." "She is not going to amount to anything!" She is ...
It is the attitude of him being the Drill Sgt. and her being the new recruit!
So- why does it have to be a power struggle? I believe that he has the need to feel all powerful.
Everyone else is wrong - not him...
At least dinner has ended with no tears today - we will see what tomorrow holds.
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You rock Girl. Great thoughts!
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